Great Post from Strawberry Blonde - one of my favorite bloggers out there. Enjoy and I hope you can learn from it just as I have. ~ RM
SB's note: I originally wrote this post on February 24, 2013, but thought I'd share it again as we approach the end of 2015...and to wish a Happy Holidays to all...
No doubt, everyone has experienced some kind of loss over the years. Its consequences can be quite painful.
Last Monday (February 18th) my male pussycat, Smudge, who was 14 years old, passed away. He was with me from the age of 8 weeks. He's been my companion and comforter for the past two years since my husband died, and since Smudge's sister died three years ago. My family of four is now a family of one.
Within the space of four short days from when I first took Smudge to the Vet's (on February 15th) to his passing, I experienced a roller-coaster of emotions beginning with:
- worry (as I suspected he was gravely ill);
- which progressed to extreme panic and fear (of not knowing what decisions I'd have to make and the ensuing consequences);
- and then moved on to profound sadness;
- and then to numbness and disbelief;
- and, now, to somewhere just slightly above (and more positive than) numbness, as I come to terms with what has happened and where I go from here.
These range of emotions, as well as losing those whom I love, have re-enforced the old saying that "nothing lasts forever." People, events, places, things, and stuff, in general, are transitory and are not ours to keep or possess, but, simply, to borrow and enjoy while they are in our lives. I'm finally realizing that to yearn for something or someone that is in our past (and gone) is not a healthy place to be...it uses up valuable energy and weakens my abilities to, firstly, decide what it is that I desire in life now, and, secondly, from recognizing it and acting on when it tries to show up and become a part of my new life.
You may wonder why I'm writing about this in my trading Blog. I realized today that I've experienced these same emotions when I've made trading losses.
- First, the worry each morning (as a daytrader) that I won't be able to make money that day;
- second, extreme panic and fear that I won't know what to do if the trade goes against me;
- third, profound sadness when I've lost a trade;
- fourth, numbness and disbelief that this loss happened to me;
- and fifth, somewhere more positive than numbness as I try to assess the trade and move on to the next opportunity.